I keep getting 10+ emails or blog replies a day of should the “ordinary” person do to change things.
Here are where I would suggest you put your your fingers to work on the keyboard or telephone.
1. the NASW – National Association of Social Workers – they are suppose to oversee the Code of Ethics for all social workers (and I am one) I can think of many tenets mr. Garnett Frederick broke beyond telling me I was in an anti-gay city and state. our family NEVER saw him after the brief 5 min exchange. When I ran traumas, I held the family’s hand, I would find them a quiet room, I helped them with the beginning stages of grieving. In other words – you treat them like you would want to be treated in crisis with care, dignity and respect. The children and I got NONE of that. So call NASW based in DC and get their ethics committee working on him. Dr. Frederick has a PhD in SW – so he knows better. Now the NASW may say there isn’t much they can do if he doesn’t pay dues – well then that needs to change – who is responsible for his behavior and adhering to the code we all pledged to uphold when we became social workers.
2. The Jt. Commission on Hospital Accreditation – They oversee all the item we listed in our lawsuit – that the judge agreed – were violated but they aren’t law – so the hospital needs to be investigated for how they handled our family.
3. The hospital itself – Jackson Memorial Hospital is apart of the University of Miami – large teaching hospital. I filed an online complaint again Mr. Frederick about 2 weeks after Lisa’s death – and I have so many people who can step forward and confirm he said that to me.. it’s not something I came up with 2 weeks later – I said it within 1 minute after he said to me to our close family friends when I was crying for them to get the documents faxed to the hospital of. He continues to deny he said it. The hospital lost my complaint for 4 months and to this day over 2.5yrs later they NEVER resolved my complaint! They then never sent me Lisa’s medical records – When I finally did get them months later – they also gave them to her parents – who were not her surrogate and had no right to them (that is not an issue between my in-laws and me) but it’s a matter of courtesy that I couldn’t get her records, still can’t get her death certificate from the state of Florida that lists manner and cause – I have to go through the 1st funeral home where we did her Funeral Mass. There was a huge breakdown at JMH – I filed the complaint, I told LAORA – (Life Alliance Organ Recovery Agency) about what Mr Frederick said to me – I told it to the nurse that took over the procument of Lisa’s organs – Maggie – LAORA was the ONLY agency that allowed me to sign one piece of paper allowing which organs Lisa would donate to save lives… the rest of lisa’s file is stamped – “unable to complete” – yet I was there at the exact same time as her ambulance – asking to fill out admission forms.
4. Contact the GLMA – Gay/Lesbian Medical Association – they have made our situation a priority and even started the facebook group “Committee for Fair Visitation at JMH”.
While my federal case has halted, I know I had the best legal minds on our side – Beth Littrell – from the amazing people of Lambda Legal and Don Hayden from Baker/McKenzie (he is based in Miami). Please send them thank yous for their wisdom in taking our case.
Finally – I am trying to figure out how I go from plaintiff to activist… and if the laws in Florida don’t support me holding Lisa’s hand – except during the Last Rites which I asked for them to find me a priest – then something has to change. The Laws must change – so I have my map up here at home of Florida State, and all their local reps/senators are listed. And I will be writing to them on Feb 19th (lisa’s death date) and 10/08 (her birth date) every year – to remind them how inhumanly we were treated… the judge agreed – and I still have never received an apology.
Ok so you caught me in a fired up mood – I was just dubbing Lisa and my Holy union from 1991 from VHS to DVD so it’s not lost forever. I will try to find the links for all the agencies and put a new header to the Left for “what you can do”.
Thank you all beyond words for your continued support. I any of you have contacts in mainstream media outlets – send them my story – I believed if more people knew that Lisa was allowed to die allow – then I would hope this could never happen again.
look for the new links tomorrow – or google them now. Thanks you all for your continuing support