Blogs can be hacked

Sadly, someone decided to hack my family’s blog on the 9th year anniversary of Lisa’s passing (2/19/15).  I rarely check this site anymore; however, I happened to look early today.

So this post about LP family using nerf guns etc… is not me!

I am not able to delete it.  I would hate to delete the entire blog – lots of history on here.

I’ll keep an eye out for other hacks.  Changed all my security info.  I’ll see if that helps

She is growing up

Last week, Danielle and I headed to Eastern Washington University.  Danielle was admitted for the fall term and she committed to the school.  Though it was snowing as we started our tour, Danielle seemed to go through the gam met of emotions typical of looking at the next stage of anyone’s life.  She was excited, apprehensive, curious and quiet.  I am beyond proud of Danielle.  Now that she has seen dorm rooms, she is setting up wish lists on Amazon and Target for her towels and other important things she needs to get to make the room her own.  Look for those lists soon.  Danielle’s graduation date is June 9th – here in Olympia at St. Martins.  Tickets are limited – we only get 6 tickets but already have asked for 5 more.

Here is a pic of Danielle as we were landing in Spokane – I think it says it all.  Everything that must be going through her head as she gets ready to move on and find her own wings and soar to new heights.

let the feelings flow

time for me to come back to reality

for a fleeting moment, there was hope 

but reality crashed down as I  ran my handle over the engraved marble

but the stars have not aligned as I dreamed and hoped 

thank you Adele ~ you say it best

“Someone Like You”

I heard
That you’re settled down
That you
Found a girl

I heard
That your dreams came true.
Guess she gave you things
I didn’t give to you

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited
But I couldn’t stay away, I couldn’t fight it.
I had hoped you’d see my face and that you’d be reminded
That for me it isn’t over

Never mind
I’ll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you too
“Don’t forget me,” I begged

“Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead.”
Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead,

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited
But I couldn’t stay away, I couldn’t fight it.
I had hoped you’d see my face and that you’d be reminded
That for me it isn’t over.

Never mind
I’ll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you too
“Don’t forget me,” I begged
“I’ll remember,” you said
“Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead.”

Nothing compares
No worries or cares
Regrets and mistakes
They are memories made.
Who would have known
How bittersweet this would taste?

Never mind
I’ll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you too
“Don’t forget me,” I begged
“I’ll remember,” you said
“Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead”

Never mind
I’ll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you too
“Don’t forget me,” I begged
“I’ll remember,” you said
“Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead”

Sometimes it lasts in love
But sometimes it hurts instead

my community…

Just as I think, things are winding down with speeches and appearances that I will finally have time to work on my memoir and one week can change it all.

Two weeks ago, I went through 3 hours of IV poking ending up with eight failed peripheral IV attempts.  I finally said ‘enough’ and the doc on call order a Mid-Line.  It finally went in and thank god for that.  As the Steroids flooded my system and making my joints ache like an 80 year old, and slowing me down to a crawl but it allowed my mind to free itself.  I find it best to have out of body experiences when I am sitting there for the hour of the treatment.  The main IV nurse is not someone I want to converse with or really get to know.  She’s the “main” iV fusion nurse at my plan and she is the only perosn in 20yrs at my health plan I have ever complained about.  So Sarah showing up to advocate for me after 8 hrs of this deaf nurse not seeing the pain she was putting me through and then relaying what she saw to my doctor, I’m beyound fortunate – it’s what Lisa used to do.   I went through 5 full days or a total of 5G of steroids and can report I’m back to my baseline.

So as my mind is freed during my treatment and at night when the 1000mg of steroids coursing through my body makes sleep impossible, my thoughts turned to the upcoming spring and early summer events.  The kids, Sarah and I are all going to NYC where I am receiving the Lambda Legal Liberty Award on May 2nd.  A complete shock when Kevin sent his letter asking to give me the award – it threw me back to that day in April when the gentleman said “do you have a few minutes to speak to the President”.  Funny, I think, would someone actually say “no” in either situation?

Then last week, I took on another CASA case, missed my UPS class so need to catch up on reading and have multiple kid oriented events on the horizon when GLAAD’s L.A. office called.  I know it is almost their Media Award season since the kids and I along with my sister Marilyn went to the San Fran Awards in Spring 2008.  I did not speak; however, Neil (GLAAD’s president) talked about our situation and then the spotlights and camera’s hit the kids and I.  The evening was fun with David Mixner and Sharon Stone receiving awards as well as sitting at Judith Light’s table (she is an honorary co-chair).  I was in my infancy when it came to events back then.  I think it was only my second time at a large gathering.  GLAAD is special to me since the beginning when the head of national media Cindi Creager took my call and I just told her what happened to us – in about 20 minutes non-stop.  This was before I knew you don’t just call up large LGBT organizations and talk to some of the upper mgmt.  But it worked for me more than once.  So back to my call last friday, GLAAD L.A. calls and asks if I would like to speak at the NYC awards, March 19th.  Easy answer –of course.  There is also a possibility of also talking at the LA and San Fran awards which I would be happy to also.


wake up

In the U.S. we have more guns per capita than any, yes any other, country. For every 100 citizens we have 90 guns. The next most heavily armed society is Yemen where they have 60 guns per 100 individuals. Now multiple our 90 guns by clips that hold 30+ rounds. Talking to a friend tonight, we wondered who in the hell needs more than 6 rounds for gun to protect home? What use do we have for these huge clips outside of Law Enforcement or the Military? I understand the “right to bear arms”, what I don’t get is anyone would need that many shots to kill or wound an intruder in their house? If it takes you more than 5 or 6 rounds to protect your family – you probably can’t aim and shouldn’t have a gun in the first place. What I see springing up is a reliving of the Columbine shooting. April 19, 1999 is when media showed the shooting on every channel and we were hungry for the stories of heroism and bravery. Then the stories of the evil people who would perpetrate this type of crime and the impossible question of “why?”. We are doing it again folks. Wake up, nothing has changed. I know what I am doing to change so this is not repeated. What will you do? Democracy is an active process, not a spectator sport.

2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

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The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow.

Crunchy numbers

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The average container ship can carry about 4,500 containers. This blog was viewed about 16,000 times in 2010. If each view were a shipping container, your blog would have filled about 4 fully loaded ships.


In 2010, there were 44 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 384 posts. There were 73 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 410mb. That’s about 1 pictures per week.

The busiest day of the year was April 16th with 2 views. The most popular post that day was POTUS.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were,,,, and

Some visitors came searching, mostly for janice langbehn, janice langbehn and lisa pond, lisa pond, the little ship poem, and langbehn pond.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.


POTUS April 2010


Lawsuit Info November 2009


Memorial Fund November 2009


D.H. Lawrence Poem – spun June 2008


Contact US July 2008


As 2010 comes to end, I feel the urge to remind friends, family and blog visitors what has happened for the LP family.  I find myself dreading the year in review this year and less of a need to prove I existed this year.  So I compromised with myself, and decided to only mention a few important moments by each month of 2010.  Thank you to all who continue to follow how our family is doing and remember you can get the equality version only at Peace


*I finished up my LnI trial for my fall down 11 stairs back on 8/29/07 – coupled with my MS – caused my employer the State to retire me in August 2008.  Which to thanks of an amazing Workman’s Comp Attorney.

*David paged in our House Legislature for Week 3 – for Representative Brendan Williams (retired at end of 2010).  David did an amazing job on his last day, carried in the US Flag opened the session with the Pledge of Allegiance – a proud moment as a mom.

*Big Bob Married Jennifer


* A great day on March 9th, I found the Gibbs family again.  Sarah and Monte were at Lisa and my Holy union back in 1991.  We lost track of them when we ballooned to 4 kids and they did too.  Sarah and I still have 3 hr Starbuck’s coffee runs – lots to catch up on in those lost 10 yrs.


* 4/15/10 4:32 Pacific Time – POTUS called


* I was asked by Tom of HRC to help launch their 2010 HRC HealthCare equality Index.  I flew to San Fran to launch the report which was dedicated to Lisa and our family.  Though it was a quick trip Marilyn and Scarlett were there with me at the media launch and then we met up with Gary and Jim for lunch.

* David left for 10 days on his Grade 8 trip with his Waldorf class – their rite of passage.  He came home happy and fulfilled.  Finished and presented his Graduation project


* I received the Capital City Pride – Equality Award

* The Kids and I along with my brother Skip were invited to the White House.  The Kids and I were in the “clutch” and first up to meet the President who Danielle proclaimed is very handsome “but man he has big ears”.

* the kids, myself and Beth Littrell(Lambda legal) met with Dept. of HHS Secretary Kathleen Sebelius on our trip to DC.  Sec. Sebelius was suppose to stay 5mins -but stayed and hour to hear our story, receive the HRC 2010 Healthcare Equality Index and take official photos.

* We spent a day with Skip at his house and his mammoth cats Buster, Tugger and Smokey.  It was wonderful to just sit and have nothing to do in the presence of my big brother.

* the Kids and I then flew to Chicago (first trip there, and not the last I’m guessing).  I was asked to help launch the DVD of HannahFree starring Sharon Gless.  Spending the afternoon and evening with Sharon Gless – priceless.  I can now count her as a true friend.

* Danielle went to the Basic Police Explorer Academy in Yakima for 7 days.  She was called “curly Sue” on the first day – b/c her hair was touching her neck – she did push ups for that one.  She graduated and her post of Lacey PD took top honors.


* The proposed regs for Same Sex hospital visitation language was put out for public comment


* David began High School and started playing high school football.  Danielle began her Junior year and Katie her last year of middle school.

* Still fighting JMH for all of Jackson Memorial’s record of Lisa’s time there.  Finally decided to call Sec. Sebelius’ office who forwarded it for formal complaint through CMS.

* I was honored at the PNW HRC Gala Dinner with their Equality Award.


* Lisa’s parents and Aunt Bubbles came for a visit and stay with the kids while I headed to NYC and CT.

* We said goodbye to our golden retriever Daisy Mae on 10/2 – she fell ill very quickly from cancer and died peacefully at 8 yrs old.


* I took part in the National conference call for Equality Leaders and then the Media on the release of the New HHS regs for Hospital visitation

* Had Thanksgiving with Dawn and Justine and Alex.  Had a wonderful time – since it’s the 3rd time we have gone, I’m guessing it’s our tradition now.


* I underwent my 8th or so surgery on my trigeminal neuralgia.  Thanks to Chris and Sarah for getting me there safely and home safely.

* Spent Christmas Eve with the Gibbs at their church for a wonderful service

* Dani left the day after Christmas for 7 days again for the Advanced Police Academy.  She is not allowed to use a cell phone or texting so will have to wait to see how it goes.


So there you go – and if you would rather read the “in the moment” posts, feel free to search back.  The blog turned 4 yrs old in October.  It is still the easiest way to get pictures of the kids and our happenings up in a timely way – so I will guess it will continue